CLIENT PROFILE - IRFAN, 46 YEAR OLD MALE / BORN AND RAISED IN PAKISTAN

Irfan recalls the day he became a father as the best day of his life. However, shortly after the birth of his second child, his wife began demanding luxury items and was constantly comparing him to her brothers. She would often humiliate him and threaten to leave with their children if he didn’t meet her demands. With limited available work, he struggled to meet her unrealistic expectations. One day he came home to find that she had made good on her threat and left Pakistan and moved to the United States with their children. Seeing no other alternative, he quit his job and followed his wife and children over 8,000 miles away. Upon reconnecting with his wife in the U.S., she continued to abuse him, and he also endured physical abuse at the hands of her brothers. 

 

When he came to Daya, Irfan was unemployed, spoke little English and was losing hope of seeing his children again. Daya’s advocate connected him with a pro-bono attorney and worked closely with them to help build a case for shared custody. Daya volunteers accompanied him to court during his long drawn out divorce and custody battle. When he received shared custody of the children, Daya assisted him with filing immigration petitions to protect him from the constant threat of deportation by his abusers. With Daya’s help, he has completed ESL classes, is now employed, and receives weekly counseling. Although his situation is very different from what he had imagined, he now has the tools and the support to move forward in his life. 

1 in 10 men (10%) in the US have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by a partner and report a related impact on their functioning.*

​*US DEPARTMENT OF LABOR

DAYA, INC. 2018 ANNUAL REPORT