Am I being abused?

Think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. An abusive relationship is one-sided (as opposed to equal) and is marked by extreme jealousy and control. A telling sign is that the abused partner is afraid to say ‘No’ to their partner, and consents to their demands including those for sex, out of fear.

Does your partner…

  • Isolate you from friends and family?

  • Prevent you from doing things that you enjoy?

  • Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?

  • Intimidate or threaten you? 

  • Call you names, put you down, or humiliate you? 

  • Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?

  • Threaten to harm, deport, or divorce you? 

  • Call you constantly or track your car, phone, social media, or email? 

  • Control where you go and who you speak to?

  • ​Control where you go and who you speak to?  

  • Tell you that you are nothing without them?

  • Blame you for their behavior, feelings and actions?

  • Keep you from working or accessing money?

  • Force you to have sex or do things you do not want to do? 

  • Treat you roughly by hitting, slapping, grabbing, or punching you?

  • Destroy objects to show what they can do to you?

  • Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?

  • Use their drug/alcohol problem as an excuse for abusing you?

  • Make you feel like there “is no way out” of the relationship?

If you said ‘Yes’ to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.

  • It is not your fault that your partner is abusing you.

  • However, only you can take the steps necessary to protect yourself and your children.

  • Your safety and wellbeing are at risk. Please call Daya or talk to someone about the abuse.